Who abuses
children?
It does not always begin with a stranger. More often, it starts with
someone a child already knows or recognizes. A classmate, a boyfriend
or girlfriend, someone from the community, or a family member.
Sometimes it is an adult, but often it is not. In many cases, it is a peer
or acquaintance.
These interactions unfold within existing relationships and social
networks. Throughout the interviews, young people spoke about their
desire to form new social connections; seeking friendship, romance,
affection and a sense of belonging. These motivations are a normal
and important part of adolescent development. However, it is also
something that perpetrators may deliberately or opportunistically take
advantage of and exploit.
A girl from the Dominican Republic described how, at 13 years of age,
her first relationship with a boy her own age turned abusive:
“And I started supposedly my first ‘romantic’ relationship. I really
liked the guy, to tell you the truth, he was my first love. Until a time
came when we were supposed to be more comfortable with each
other, and he started asking me for images. He would say to me,
‘No, you should make a video of yourself dancing, like this, in your
underwear’, and things like that. And I would think about it a lot, a
lot, a lot, but in the end, I did it.”
Through Children’s Eyes
Who abuses children?
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