A young woman from Mexico, who was 14 years old when the abuse
started, recalls how requests for sexual content were framed in the
context of love or fidelity:
“After that, he started asking for pictures things like, ‘Send me a photo
of your pajamas’ or ‘Show me what you’re wearing’. Eventually, it
escalated to, ‘Take off your shirt’. When I said, ‘No,’ he’d pressure
me, saying, ‘If you won’t do it, it’s because you’ve already sent it to
someone else or because you don’t love me.’ I’d try to reassure him,
‘No, I love you’ and he’d reply, ‘Then send me a photo without your
shirt’. Over time, I started sending them. All of this happened through
[Facebook] Messenger.”
In many cases, abuse unfolds within young people’s own relationships
and social circles, where trust, emotional connection and pressure
can become intertwined. A young woman in the Dominican Republic
described how, at age 14, she was introduced by a friend to an adult man
she had only met online. They developed a relationship and exchanged
sexual images. Two years later, the man threatened to share those
images with her family and community unless she sent him more.
What began as an attempt to maintain closeness quickly became an
experience of vulnerability and harm:
An estimated 1.5
million children
were subjected
to threats or
blackmail to
engage in sexual
activities in the
year prior to the
survey. A further
1.2 million
children were
threatened with
the distribution
of sexual images
or videos of
themselves.†
Through Children’s Eyes
“So, we started talking, and we became boyfriend and girlfriend.
It was my first relationship, and it was a telephone relationship
because we never saw each other in person. When we were in a
relationship, as a teenager, your hormones are all over the place,
and unfortunately, you listen to everything people tell you, and
unfortunately, you fall for the so-called test of love. The person
asked me for photos. First, he made me build that bond of trust
with him, and then he asked me for intimate photos of myself.”
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