Especially considering their background as a country with decades of military government and surveillance. What’s the Different Between Private and Public? While talking with Mimi and Pemala about dating and boys, we naturally came across the topic of fake profiles and stalking. They told me about an application on Facebook that allowed you to see who had viewed your profile and how many times. I was a bit stumbled when they said that they could not believe that people used this. The argument was that this information was private. Not to the person holding the profile, as I thought, but to the person viewing the profile. “This is private, they should not know that I looked at their profile, that’s my secret,” Mimi told me confidently with Pemala nodding eagerly at her side. When asking them if they were not curious, they smiled, of course, they were, but it was unheard of to use this application. It all came down to trust and shame, concluding that it was shameful for the person looking at your profile if you knew about it. Shame is then another level added to the equation. What role does it play? M. Rosaldo, working on the Ilongot and headhunting, talked about their concepts of “shame” and “guilt.” She writes that shame and guilt are often seen as moral affects that are necessary to constrain the individuated self from dangerous and asocial acts of impulse, lust, and violence (Rosaldo, 1983, p. 136). Further, she writes that shame can function as almost a structure, or as norms, that can constrain or shape an individual’s behavior to the society’s constructions or “ways” and as such become significant to the daily life. The affect, then, is a potentially unaware fraction of the social frames created to perform the given feelings. So, if Mimi and Pemala had used this function to see who had been viewing their profile, that would be shameful not only for the person attending their profile but also for themselves, since this is “none of their business.” Shame then, if we choose to follow Rosaldo and Ilongot views, is associated with autonomy and respect, a necessary constraint to avoid acknowledgment of possible conflicts that would breed inequality (Rosaldo, pp. 141-145). Addressing shame in Bali Wikan writes that: “emotions are deepfelt concern with regard to both inner feeling and outer expression… …control of expression is also linked with fears of mockery and shame that implicate feelings of self-respect and self-value.”(Wikan, 1990, p. 128). In this case, the outer expression would be a combination of online and offline action or performance. It is reasonable to think that the action would affect the emotions or feelings in your offline "body," but the action of doing something that makes you compromise these 70