Online Expression of Emotions
What is an online feeling and how can one express a feeling through a device? In this part I
connect feelings, intimacy and privacy, and will in this section, focus on feelings and
intimacy. Lambert, a new media researcher who looks at online intimacy through the lens of
Facebook, argues that Facebook, rather than creating new, intensifies already existing
relationships through intensified intimacy and a potentially jealous gaze (my emphasis)
(Lambert, 2013). I will through my empirical data support this argument and claim that
Facebook is not creating new relationships, friendly, loving or unfriendly ones, but rather
opens up a new space where people can act out their feelings. This involves friendships,
family, and dating-relations. These concepts of relationships are not new, but Facebook is
creating an additional platform where these relations can be acted out. This is something
Miller has described with Scalable sociality (Daniel Miller, 2016), where privacy,
relationships and/or the wish to be public or not is part of the choice of platform, where one
chose to express what. In Yangon, all these scales, different places, and ways to express
oneself exist within Facebook. Facebook is then is replacing or adding to whatever ways they
acted these relations out ahead of Facebook if they were able to. Facebook (may) influence
the performance of intimacy, in this case, feelings. (Lambert, 2013, p. 19) Miller´s social
scale is part of the performance of the actor, choosing on which platform, or in which form,
the feelings are acted out on Facebook.
I meet up with Mimi and Pemala at the main building of the university. They take me around
the campus where they study and introduce me to some of their friends. The sun is still high
in the crystal blue sky, and umbrellas are acquired to gain some shade. After the small tour,
we walk towards the ice bar. The dusty air and sound of honking cars surround us when I feel
my longyi slide open for the third time today. The girls help me adjust it, this time with a
proper knot. They laugh, I still need to learn how to tie it just tight enough. Mimi and Pemala
study social science, play baseball and consider themselves the best of friends. You could
almost think that they are sisters or twins in the way they finish each other sentences.
Sometimes to help out with the English translations, but more often than other, it happens
intuitively and with a big smile. I always envy their beautiful longyis, today they have two
different shades of pink and purple, both with a golden embraided pattern. In the heat, Ice
Berry is crowded, but we manage to find a table under the air-condition and welcome the cold
air. Sipping on my milkshake, I ask if they use Facebook in school, or if it is just for private
use. Delaying a bit, they are a bit conflicted. After a while, they do agree that; no, it is mainly
private use.
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