I hesitate, and Mimi continues. Leaning towards me and almost whispering the words as she looks around to see if she recognizes someone, “Sometimes its awkward,” she says. Sometimes they fight on Facebook but are friends at school. I do not understand. How can they be friends at school, but fighting online? The answer amazed me; “on Facebook is the real feelings” Pemala says. Mimi continues; “In real life, they fake it.” Digging deeper, they connect this to politeness, and that in “real life,” you do not tell someone what you feel or mean. You can, however, write a status about it, of course without mentioning any names. When someone interprets that the status-update is pointed at them, it is a foundation for conflict. This shows us how Facebook works as a channel where conflict can play out. As Lambert points out, this conflict is not something new or brought to us by Facebook. The emotion is there; Facebook provides additional space to act out and perform the feelings. It is similar to love and affection, where they often write status updates showing tender feelings towards other girls or boys. On Facebook, they dare to speak out, without mentioning names, how their “real feelings” is online, but in “real life,” as Mimi and Pemala call is, they downplay it. Following Goffman, one could argue that Facebook function paradoxically as backstage while “real life” is front-stage (Goffman, 1969). How is this, then, that the real feelings happened online. Why is this so? Why do they feel like they cannot show their emotions in a face to face position? In what other ways can we see this? Before I try to answer, I will introduce one more situation, dating in Yangon. Dating in Today’s Yangon In Myanmar, it is still uncommon to show affection in public. As I was told and did see myself, you do not kiss or hold hands in public, not in the streets, on the mall or in restaurants. It could be easy to say that it is not a problem; you can be affectionate in the comfort of your home. However, if you are 16 years old and newly in love with a wonderful girl or boy, it is not always that simple. Very often do not only your parents live in the same house or building, but also your grandparents and sometimes an aunt or two. Especially with the older, more conservative, generations it is common to avoid showing affection for your new friend until marriage is a real possibility. To be openly dating can then, be problematic. My friend Thaung once told me that he would not date “for real” until he was ready to marry, for now, he just kept it casual, which meant ice cream-dates and maybe stole some small kisses. Mima and Pemala giggled when I asked them about dating or crushes before the seriousness in the question of a boyfriend came through, they had a clear opinion about this; 67